Hello Counselor – Eli, Hani, Hyelin [ENG/THA/2017.05.15]

Hello Counselor – Eli, Hani, Hyelin [ENG/THA/2017.05.15]


We will counsel you on your unspeakable concerns. National… – Competition on Worries! / – Competition on Worries! I’ll introduce today’s guests. He’s now a father. Please welcome Eli from U-Kiss. Hello. It’s nice to meet you. Please welcome Hani and Hyelin from EXID. You’re amazing. – Yes. / – Welcome. This will be aired on Parents’ Day. In your life, have you done something bad to your parents? Do you want to talk about anything – to your parents? / – My mom is very strict. How strict was she? For example, when I was in seventh grade, my friends were going to watch a movie after the first midterm. I wanted to join them, so I asked my mom, “Can I go to the movie theater?” And she said, “Don’t you dare.” She’s very strict. She didn’t say, “Where are you watching it?” – “Don’t you dare.” / – “Don’t you dare.” In eighth grade, I became a little rebellious. I said to her, “What have you done for me?” She said, “How dare you say such a thing?” She hit me with a bowl that had bibimbap inside. – You got hit with a spoon. / – She’s fierce. – Gosh. / – I got hit with a brass bowl. Some parents are very strict like that. But not many hit their children with a brass bowl. – And she’s a daughter. / – Right. But I am thankful to her. The reason why I didn’t become more rebellious was because of the brass bowl and her harsh messages. – Did you do anything sorry? / – First of all, I’m sorry that I got married secretly. – Did your parents not know? / – No. – What? / – What? – I got married unexpectedly. / – Did you get married without telling your parents? That’s the worst thing you can do to your parents. Really? – So my mom said / – How… I could marry her after the contract ends – if I still love her then. / – Right. But I was sure I was going to still love her. – Your parents must have felt so sad. / – They were. Kneel and apologize to your parents. – Apologize to them. / – I am so sorry. (But his family is really happy now.) Goodness. EXID’s new song has a very unique title. – It’s called “Night Rather Than Day”. / – It’s lovely. – Can you show us? / – Show us. (Please show us the new song.) (“Night Rather Than Day” by EXID) (At night, at night) (Hello on Monday night) (It’s a collaboration of Hello and EXID.) (It’s a perfect night.) We have three stories again today. – Please reveal the keywords. / – Yes. “Dear My Queen”. – “The Silent Son”. / – “Nothing’s Wrong with My Face”. I have mixed feelings about this. Let’s see how you feel about it. Hello. I am a man in his 30s, married for 10 years. Many wives have come out on Hello Counselor because of their patriarchal husband. But in my case, I am not the king. I serve a queen. (His wife is like a queen.) – It’s the opposite situation. / – Complete opposite. – When my wife says, “Water.” / – What? “Water.” “Food.” – That’s crazy. / – “I’m hungry. Give me food.” – That’s a worry. / – “Do the dishes and the laundry.” “Why don’t you clean the house?” I am unbelievably busy every day doing chores and serving my wife. Does his wife have a building? “Honey, what do you want to eat today?” “I want Chinese food. 1 jjajangmyeon and 1 jjamppong.” “But I want to eat fried rice.” “Just order 1 jjajangmyeon and 1 jjamppong.” “I married you because you’re not gluttonous.” That’s crazy. I always have to eat whatever my wife wants. This happens too. (That’s unbelievable.) “It’s already past nine. Let’s sleep. Lights off.” “I need to check something on my phone.” “Turn it off.” (Turn it off.) – Don’t let any light come out. / – Any. I have to sleep whenever my wife goes to bed. Why does she treat me like her servant? I want to escape this now. Please help me. (He wants help to escape the servant life.) He must have a lot to say. Let’s meet him. Please come on out. (Who’s the one who serves the queen?) Hello. (Kang Deokho) (Welcome) Do you really serve your wife like a queen? Yes. I’ve been married to her for ten years. You’ve been like that for ten years. I do most of the chores. (He’s in charge of most of the chores.) I do almost everything except for the laundry. When she does the laundry, she washes dirty clothes in the washer and takes them out. That’s it. So the washed clothes are just in one big pile. – You have to hang it. / – You have to wash it again. – That’s the toughest. / – You hang them. Hanging them and taking them down are the toughest. (Is he really her servant?) When she says, “Water,” while lying down, I get water and give it to her. That’s fine. But I have to wait until she finishes it and take the empty cup to the sink. Is she not well? Does she own a building? Yes. Recently… Does she really own a building? Well, yes. She must really have a building. – No. No. / – Does she really have one? No. No. That’s not it. – Does your wife have a building? / – No. The worry is resolved. (He will be her servant for life.) You have to listen to her then. What if she really has a building? That’s not it. We worked hard – Really? / – and bought a house. – You bought a house. / – And it’s under her name. – It’s registered under her name. / – It’s hers. – Goodness. / – Does your wife work and do you stay home? I used to work too in the past. But she had a dream of selling the clothes she designed. She was interested in the clothing business. She suddenly started the clothing business. I was doing well at work. But she told me to quit, so I quit. And I’m working with her now. You run the business together. – Yes. We work together. / – She said, “Quit your job and come to me.” And you did that? Yes. (Of course I should.) Why would you do that? Do you really have to sleep when she wants to sleep? But what does it mean? Are you talking about… Gosh. What? You could stay in the living room while she sleeps. I want to sleep next to her. I want to be next to her. – You want that. / – Yes. I want us to sleep in the same room. I could go to the living room and get things done. But I want to – be with her. / – You must really love her. Can’t you watch TV when she’s asleep? She wakes up when I rustle even a bit. – Does she scold you when she wakes up? / – Yes, a lot. – When you rustle… / – You get scolded a lot. I guess you rustle a lot. (I don’t like being scolded.) Have you never ordered what you want to eat? When ordering Chinese food, I’ve already decided to get fried rice, and she decides to get jjajangmyeon. If she’s not sure between jjamppong, I must order that. I’m fine with that. She’d taste my dish and if it’s better, I must switch. (What a tragedy.) When we eat clam kalguksu, she eats the clams only. She eats all the clams in my dish first. Clams are the most expensive ingredient of the dish. Yours would be an ordinary kalguksu. – Yes. / – It’s no longer clam kalguksu. – It’s just noodles. / – It’s simple kalguksu. We better listen to his wife as well. – That’s right. / – That’s how it always is. – Let’s meet his wife. / – I think she’ll be so pretty. Hello. – Hello. / – Hello. She is beautiful. She’s very cute. Do you feel your husband’s worry? I do understand him, but I need to do what I want. – There’s nothing I can do. / – You’re a bit selfish. It’s not just a bit. She’s very selfish. I said, “a bit” because I met her for the first time. Getting yourself water is different from being selfish. You can pour it yourself. Getting some water is a trivial task. You get water without a problem. Wouldn’t it be weird to say, “No, go get it yourself”? I get what you mean. He could get you water, but why must he wait until you finish drinking and bring the cup back to the sink? I have to put the cup down after drinking water. – Then… / – You could bring it back yourself. Then I might as well go get water myself. (My goodness!) (Chanwoo is completely defeated.) I lost. (Laughing) (I’m the queen.) Have you ever asked her to get you some water? – No. / – Not once? That’s right. (I only attend to my wife.) Your husband does most of the housework. You don’t even do the laundry properly. Laundry… I don’t want to use my energy to such thing. – You’re too lazy. / – You’re a housewife though. When I can’t do it, I ask him to do it for me. Isn’t it possible for him to do it for me? – Earlier… / – It happens every time though. Yes, every time. Do you think it’s natural for him to do what you want? I don’t think it’s natural, but he caters to me well. – That’s why I got used to it. / – Exactly… – Gosh. / – It’s just that your wife is the one wearing pants in your family. When you’re having an intimate time with your wife, do you do whatever your wife asks you? What are you asking him? Did you get his question? Dongyeop asked what he was most curious about. I’m a typical blood type A. When I show my affection about ten times, I want her to show me her love at least once. However, she’s quite inattentive about that. Your wife doesn’t express her love a lot. – That’s right. / – Your wife. If somebody is beside you when you make tea, – you’d ask if they want some. / – You’d ask. When she wants tea, she makes tea for herself only. – Alone? / – Yes. When she does the dishes, she looks lovely… More than how she looks from the front? (She looks lovelier from the back?) She usually turns her back on me. She usually turns her back on you? – How lonely. / – I’d hug her from the back. – You hug her from the back. / – On dramas or American movies, wives turn their heads and express love. That’s not even what I wish, but she shakes me off. – “Forget it!” / – “You’re heavy!” – That’s… / – That’s what you’re upset about. I think that’s the main problem. He does that every single day. He always wants me to be cute and begs for my love. – He’s a romantic. / – He makes a move all the time. Yes, yes. What I’m upset about is that I express love more often because I like her more, but I sometimes wonder if she finds me embarrassing. – What? / – I sometimes feel that way. – Why? / – When you’re outside? My daughter’s tutor comes about once or twice a week. When she hears the tutor coming, she turns the light off suddenly. She hides me so the tutor can’t see me. Why? Continue. When she invites her friends over, I must leave home. I have to go to an internet cafe to kill time. I got a new cell phone recently since my old one broke. I happened to call my phone with my wife’s phone. I wasn’t even saved on her phone. – You weren’t saved? / – Only the number was shown? – Only your number was shown. / – Without a name. Only my phone number was showing. – I saw if I was the only unsaved one. / – You must – have been upset. / – All her clients were saved. – I was the only unsaved one. / – You’re her husband. – There was no name either? / – No. – Why didn’t you save it? / – Did he change his number? Why did you not save his number with his name? I recognize my husband’s number, so I pick it up. I memorize his number, so there’s no need to save it. You saved other people’s numbers though. That’s because I could forget their numbers. (That’s because I could forget their numbers.) – It makes sense. / – She’s got a point. It does, right? She totally memorizes your number. (This is not what I planned.) When the tutor visits your place, – you turn off the light. / – It’s hilarious. Do you wish your tutor not to see your husband? – It’s the easiest way / – The awkward vibe. – to avoid an uncomfortable vibe. / – You block him. What about kicking him out when you have friends over? My husband needs to go out when my friends come anyway. Can’t he just stay? – If he stays, it’s a bit weird. / – I have a question. Do you also leave when your husband’s friends come? His friends don’t come to my place. Aren’t you telling him not to bring his friends over? – Excuse me? / – You’re not allowing him, are you? – I think she won’t allow him. / – That’s not it. I think he has no friends. (He nods.) That’s the answer. When I have time, I try my best to be – with my family. / – He’s a family man. Don’t you want to meet your friends? You can enjoy an alcoholic drink with your friend. I don’t drink alcohol. – Recently… / – You don’t smoke either, right? I quit smoking. – You don’t drink alcohol. / – That’s right. You do the dishes, do the laundry and make food. Do you want him to go out and meet his friends? Yes, I want us to do our stuff well on our own. However, he focuses his sole attention on me. It’d be nice to do our stuff well on our own, but the problem is that she only does what she wants. Everything she doesn’t want to do is left with me. – She wanted to drive a foreign car. / – The small one. She wanted one, so she signed the contract right away. She didn’t take care of the car and made it very dirty. Like an off-road car. All the holders had cups from months ago. – There were cigarettes too. / – She doesn’t smoke. I’m just kidding. The snack my daughter spilled in the car had molds. I couldn’t keep watching it, – so I washed the car myself. / – You washed the car. I thought you wanted to be responsible for your task. Aren’t men supposed to wash cars and take care of them? – You got molds inside. / – You should clean them. You could’ve taken them out, but you didn’t. We’re both working. My husband mostly works on his computer. I have to make clothes myself, so I often ask him to do little things. – You think you work more than your husband? / – Yes. I work much more. I really acknowledge my wife’s skills. She’s full of drive. However, I have to take care of – the rest. For example, / – He takes care of the rest. she makes spring clothes – around May. / – I see. – She tells me to sell them. / – It’s already summer. – That’s what happens. / – I must do the rest. Did your wife do something for you in return? I suffered from upset stomach lately. I got an appointment for an endoscopy myself. Through the ECG, I found out that I had arrhythmia, so I couldn’t undergo endoscopy. I was stunned. I told my wife about my heart condition, and I told her that I must go to a bigger hospital. “Go to a bigger hospital then.” – She’s inattentive. / – She’s emotionless. I wonder how ill I must be for her to care about me. I feel how upset he is. What do you think about this? When you’re sick, you can just go to a hospital. Why does he have to tell me every single thing? I don’t see why I must care about him that much. – He has a heart condition. / – She’s a good speaker. – He has arrhythmia though. / – She’s a good speaker. The doctor will examine and diagnose him. Then, when the doctor says that it’s critical, would you be surprised and scream like this? – That’s a bit… / – I’m a bit aloof. When I get pricked by a needle or get my hand cut from making clothes, I don’t express pain. – “I got hurt.” / – Even though you cut your hand? – “I cut my hand.” / – “I cut my hand.” – “I’m bleeding.” / – “I cut my hand.” “I found it.” (I found my missing finger!) – They have totally different personalities. / – Right. – Admit that she’s like that. / – You better admit it. You have no choice but to be led by her. Do you actually like mean women – and enjoy being rejected? / – Do you enjoy that? – Some people are like that. / – That’s what I said. – I’m sure there is. / – When we dated before marriage, I assure you that she liked me a lot. She changed after marriage? – I think I get the picture now. / – Is that true? – Yes. / – Did you really go after him? – Yes. Yes. / – Why did you change? “Yes. Yes.” – Did you really go after him? / – Yes. Yes Why did you change? “Yes. Yes.” – “Yes. Yes.” / – “Yes. Yes.” Why did you change? Until our daughter turned five, I stayed at home. At that time, he worked outside. I told him how hard it was, but he didn’t understand. He did everything he wanted. He even changed his profession many times. When we just got married, he ran a car wash. Then he became a real estate agent. Five years ago, – I would’ve brought him here. / – Really? At that time, when our daughter was still young, – he never changed her diaper. / – What? (He didn’t help her with the baby.) Why did he do that? – He’s such a sweet guy. / – Right. But back then, he was a very patriarchal man. – He was a patriarchal man. / – He never bathed her. He didn’t help me at all – with the chores. / – That’s crazy. (We thought he was born as a sweet husband.) (But was he playing the victim the whole time?) (Who is this man?) (What’s the truth?) – What’s the cause? / – Wait. Why did you leave out all those details? He’s a strange man. He was talking as if he’s been sweet ever since. – I almost misunderstood you. / – I know. It seems like she wants to be compensated for all the work she put in. I think that’s it. Whenever I see moms raising a child alone, I sympathize with them so much that I tell my husband I was like them too. But he gets annoyed and tells me to stop. That was such a tough and lonely time for me. It was so tough – that I even took depression pills. / – Really? – But… / – You were depressed. – Yes. / – Really? So I think I deserve to be treated like this. But there must’ve been an event that changed you. I don’t think you would’ve changed gradually. Did something happen to change you? When I had a job outside, I earned money. So I thought it was right for my wife to do the chores. But when we started working together and I began doing the chores and taking care of the child too… You realized how tough it is. Yes. It realized it wasn’t easy. – He could… / – Then you should just put up with it. Why did you send your story here? It doesn’t make sense. He hasn’t done it enough anyway. She even had to take depression medication. Recently, she came up with a plan I can’t – What is it? / – cope with. It was our tenth wedding anniversary, so we went to Boracay. She saw a show about celebrities opening a restaurant in a small island. – The one with Youn Yuhjung. / – Yes. After watching that, she said she wants to move to Boracay. (She wants the family to move to Boracay.) – She wants to emigrate. / – Yes. – And run a restaurant. / – That was so unexpected. She already made the decision. She decided when and where we are going. – She made the decision. / – She didn’t discuss it. – When will you go? / – He doesn’t seem to know. – We are going next April. / – Sorry? Next April. – After a year? / – Yes. – That soon? / – Did you already make the decision? The thought must make you happy. Yes. What are you going to do when you are there? I think we can do something similar to what we do here. You want to do what you do now. I think it will be okay if we work hard. We began without anything. We worked so hard to get this far, and now I feel like we’ve finally become stable. Honestly, I’m afraid to start over from zero. I think language is the biggest obstacle. – Right. / – We’re both too busy working. So the best way for us is taking online classes. I study every night because I feel frustrated. I can’t stop studying because I am nervous. But my wife stopped after the alphabets. (She stopped after studying the alphabets.) She stopped after watching three episodes. – She’s not worried. / – She… – “You can speak English.” / – She… She thinks it’s okay as long as you can speak English. When we go there, my husband will be taking care of all the documents. So I think only he needs to speak good English. But you won’t be able to communicate with other people. You will be running into different people there. I’m sure I’ll speak English by that time. (She’s so optimistic.) That’s what she thinks. (Please someone stop her.) She’s unique. You have a child. Did you think about the future of the child when you were making this decision? I think it would be better for her to study there than to study here. She seems to be confident with her answer. You must be in charge of her education. No, it’s my husband in charge of her education. – Goodness. / – He educates her too. So he does everything. My wife can’t deal with my daughter. How can she not be able to deal with her daughter? – She can’t deal with her own child. / – How so? – That’s why… / – For example, when our daughter solves a math question, she’s a little slow. If she gets something wrong, my wife gets annoyed. When they fight, I have to go in and stop the fight. Then I have to teach her from the start. Let’s talk to their daughter. Hello. – Hello. / – Hello. – You are adorable. / – Please introduce yourself. I am Kang Choyoon from Paju. I’m 11 years old. You’re in fourth grade. Your dad says you and your mom don’t get along well. Do you think you don’t get along with her well either? Yes. Why do you always fight? Mom always wants to eat more, so we fight. You fight for food. Do you fight about food with your daughter? (Laughing) Do you have to eat what she wants? Yes. You too? Usually, you let your child decide. Did she ever take your food? – Steamed egg. / – Did she take your steamed egg? – She… / – Can you tell us about that situation? When I was eating it, Mom got a big spoon and took a big spoonful of it. (She can’t forget it.) She might not want to leave because of her friends. Do you want to move to another country? – Yes. / – What? She wants to. – Do you want to move to another country? / – Yes. (What?) – She wants to. / – Goodness. Congratulations. – Wait. / – Congratulations. This family is so strange. – Wait. / – Why… Why do you want to move? – Because of the air pollution. / – Air pollution. That’s why you want to move? – I never thought of that. / – Really? She thinks very differently. – Is there another reason? / – There might be a war. – What? / – Because of competition. She’s afraid of a war. – A war might break. / – She’s afraid of a war. Wait. Darling. Are you into politics? (You are 11 years old, right?) By the way, I think he actually enjoys serving his wife. What he hates is not serving his wife. – It’s not being appreciated when he does. / – Right. He will keep doing it if she appreciates it more. It’s not the work that’s tiring. While talking to her, I realized this. – They’re a happy family. / – She laughs a lot with us. She smiles a lot. – She’s pretty. / – She reacts well when we talk. But when her husband talks, she’s blunt. (She keeps a straight face.) (And she doesn’t show any emotion.) She hides me. Her face hardens when he talks. You must’ve gotten really hurt by him when you were raising your daughter alone. – Unintentionally. / – You have to experience it. – So she still holds grudges. / – It was… It was so tough. Usually, you adore babies. But when I see babies, I get reminded of that time and get scared. I think about how I got through it. – They must’ve fought. / – If your husband keeps trying hard to help you, – you should get over it one day. / – Of course. – Of course. / – You can’t drag it too long. He’s really good to you now. But what if one day he stops being so good? Won’t you get depressed again? – Yes. / – That will happen. You have to figure out another way to forget that past. – I want both of us to make more efforts. / – Yes. If I hug her ten times, she could hug me once. I heard girls usually hold guys’ hands first. But even when we go shopping, I hold her hands first. But your wife doesn’t like it. Why can’t you walk without holding hands? Right. You don’t need to do that. But don’t couples usually hold hands? You can, but your wife doesn’t like it. Right. But I get hurt by that. (I want someone like that.) – He just wants / – It’s difficult. your love. – He loves her too much. / – He does. How do you want her to react? What do you want her to do when you hug her? Normally in movies… Stop watching movies! Just watch action movies. – Watch action movies. / – All right. What happens in the movies? – The girl turns her head towards him. / – Right. – And the guy turns his head towards her. / – Right. – Hey. / – Isn’t that from “Ghost”? – That’s what he wants. / – Just give him that. Don’t shake him off when he hugs you. Turn your head. – Yes, do that. / – Okay. (She accepts it.) Let’s vote if this is a worry or not. Hyelin will vote first. – I don’t think it’s a worry. / – It’s not a worry. I thought it was a worry at first. But I think they’ll be okay if they figure it out. I don’t think it’s a worry either. Instead of dwelling in the past and forgetting to live the moment, you should enjoy your changed husband. – Right. / – I think that would be better. Yes. – I think it’s a worry. / – It’s a worry. You think differently because you are a man. When you do migrate, you will be stuck with each other. You will have to depend on each other for many things. So I hope you will be in better terms soon. If you think it’s a worry for the husband, please press the button. (What does the audience think?) – In five, four, / – In five, four, – three, two, one. / – three, two, one. – Stop. / – Time’s up. Please say something to your husband. I have been brusque and aloof, but I will try to change from now on. I love you. She’s cute. (She shows him a cute act.) She is good. She has her ways with him. His ears turned red. She has her ways with him. His ears turned red. His ears turned red. Congratulations. His ears turned red. Both men and women need expressive partners. Are you happy? Yes, I am happy. Please show us the result. (The result) The last digit is six. Will the worry get over 100? (Will the worry get over 100 votes?) – It’s 76. / – The result is 76 votes. (The worry received 76 votes.) This is a frustrating worry. Hello, I am a dad in my 60s with grown-up sons. My son is responseless. When I go home after work, I say, “I am home.” Then my son goes to his room and slams the door. “Son, I am home.” No matter how much I knock, he doesn’t open the door. He has refused to talk to me for over ten years. (He has refused to talk to me for over ten years.) A decade passed without a conversation. My wife tried to help. “Answer your dad. He is talking to you.” “What do you want me to say? Leave me alone.” It doesn’t look like he is acting. Are you mad at me? “Leave me alone!” – I think he is serious. / – The role suits him. I can hear his voice only in that circumstance. It’s miserable and sad. Is my son looking down on me because I incompetent? I want to knock on the door of my son’s heart today. Please help. (Please help my son talk to me.) He gathered his courage. I once didn’t talk to my dad for three months. – Why not? / – Do daughters do that, too? I was hurt by his brusque comments. When I sang, he said, “She must be crazy.” – It hurt my feelings. / – “What is she thinking?” – Right. / – You were serious about your dream. I think that’s why I stopped talking to him back then. – All right. / – Let’s meet the man who sent the worry. Please come on out. (Who is frustrated by his silent son?) (Lee Daehee) (He slides down in an upright position.) He is incredible. – Please sit down over here. / – Welcome. It has been a while since we had a dad send a worry. We usually get moms and children. It’s meaningful to have a dad on Parents’ Day. Welcome. Welcome. Please introduce yourself. Hello, I am a taxi driver, Lee Daehee. – It’s nice to meet you. / – Welcome. (Good luck.) Does he refuse to say anything back? When I go home after work, he goes to his room and locks the door. – He doesn’t say, “Welcome back.” / – No. Usually, sons come and say, “Welcome back.” When I knock on the door to have a conversation, he doesn’t answer. – He doesn’t even answer. / – No. In hopes of sharing a meal with him, I would say, “Come out for dinner.” He takes his portion of the dishes and goes back inside his room. (Why does he do that?) What does your son do in his room? – He probably plays games. / – He plays computer games. At night, he startles me awake. He yells when he plays games, right? – That’s it. / – Did I imitate him perfectly? (Did I imitate him perfectly?) (Yelling) (Yelling) Since when did he behave that way? I don’t know. In middle school, he started to talk less. – He was going through puberty. / – Ten years passed. Doesn’t his big brother say, “Be nice to Dad”? What does his big brother say? He is the same. (He can’t talk to his eldest son either.) – That’s right. / – Do the brothers talk to each other? – No, they don’t. / – They don’t talk to each other. Do the sons and their mom talk? They talk a little. Does your eldest son live with you? – He moved out a month ago. / – He moved out. I haven’t heard from him since then. – He never called. / – No. What is going on? Has there been an incident? Otherwise, it doesn’t make sense for them… – to act that way. / – There must be a reason. I don’t know. Had I known, I would have made amends. Do you have a hunch? Have you thought, “Could this be the reason”? I am not a competent man. I don’t have a way with words. Perhaps that’s why. (It’s frustrating.) Fortunately, the younger son is here. We hope… the family would talk and make up. Hello. – Hello. / – It’s nice to meet you. I am curious about your thought on the matter. To be honest, I don’t think it’s a worry. I don’t know why I am here. In that case, why are you here? I came because the production team asked me to. Your dad said you have refused to talk to him – for almost ten years. It doesn’t make sense. / – Why? I don’t want to talk to him. You don’t think it’s a worry? You don’t even welcome him when he comes home. How is that not a worry? I play games often. It’s annoying when he asks me to eat repeatedly. What about other instances? When he comes home and says, “I am home,” you don’t answer. You ignore him even when you aren’t playing games. I do ignore him even when I am not playing games. It’s more convenient… – to mind my business. / – Isn’t it uncomfortable – not talking to your dad? / – I am very comfortable. Now that you have grown up, you find your parent a hassle. – It makes your dad sad. / – It makes him very sad. Why do you eat alone? Dad chews food loudly. I don’t want to hear it. – He’s loud? / – My goodness. Some people chew food loudly. That’s why it’s more convenient to eat in my room. You must like being alone. Do you find it inconvenient to eat with friends? I don’t have many friends. It’s better to be alone. Which game do you play? How much do you play in a day? I play games eight hours a day. Why do you lock the door? Is it to prevent your dad from walking in? Ever since I was little, he entered without knocking. Locking the door became a habit. I have privacy. That much is true. What privacy? Do you watch something your dad shouldn’t see? (Does he have a secret hobby?) Dongyeop would know. (I refuse to say more.) His ears turned red. (Dongyeop’s ears are red.) – All right. / – Your dad said his incompetence could be the reason. – It’s heartbreaking. / – Most children would clench their fists at those words. Do you think his words are true? There are times I am ashamed of his job. – Why would you be ashamed? / – Go on. Ever since my friends teased me about his job, I was ashamed of his job. – There is nothing wrong with his job. / – What jerks! (This is my fault.) You might have thought that in adolescence. However, most people don’t think that way in adulthood. I try to think differently, but I am still ashamed. Aren’t you ashamed of playing games all day? (Shouldn’t you act differently if you know shame?) (You should reflect on yourself!) He said he has never had a conversation with his son. Think about how your dad must feel. He must feel pain worse than an awl to his lungs. He is at a loss, but you don’t even think it’s a worry. “I am comfortable. It’s more convenient this way.” Do you have respect for your dad? I respect that he works hard. – That’s right. / – You need to tell him that. (He finally looks at his son.) Is there a reason why you avoid conversations? When I was in elementary school, he beat me for failing to memorize the multiplication table. – What? / – The multiplication table. Afterwards, he suddenly apologized and gave me a hug. It was baffling. – Do you remember the incident? / – I know that emotional wounds can last a lifetime. However, it makes my heart ache – that it’s still in his mind. / – It’s heartbreaking. Hani said earlier that she was beaten with a brass bowl by her mom. She is a woman, too. Now, she is thankful for her mom’s strict ways. There were worse beatings. There were more. – You should be a delinquent. / – If I failed to clean my bag, she would make me bring it out and count the trash inside. If there were 64 pieces, I got 64 hits. When the stick broke, she brought another one. My mom always gave me a hug – after a beating of love. / – She felt sorry. – That’s disciplining. / – A carrot and stick effect. – That’s right. / – My mom beat me – many times with a hanger. / – My mom did the same. That’s why I always had a bruise in the shape of a question mark on my thigh. – Then she always gave me a hug. / – That’s nothing. A stick? A hanger? I was beaten with a frozen pollack. (Do you know the taste of a frozen pollack?) A frozen pollack! I was beaten with a frozen pollack. Even the same experience can leave different wounds in people’s hearts. That’s right. However, it can’t be the only reason – why you remain silent. / – It doesn’t make sense. Some people find it hard to do something they haven’t done for a long time. – Let’s hear from his mom. / – She must have suffered. Hello. – Hello. / – Hello, ma’am. (Hello) Why do you think your son behaves this way? The topic makes me upset. He is obsessed with games. He works part-time jobs to spend money on games. When he doesn’t have enough money, he makes a mobile payment. He once spent 3,000 dollars on a mobile payment. – 3,000 dollars? / – Yes. I am ashamed of you. We are already struggling to get by. Doesn’t he earn money? He can’t stand difficulties in life. He spends his parents’ money frivolously. – He doesn’t value it. / – He acts like it’s his own. – Has he completed his military service? / – Yes. He took time off from school. He became crazy after he completed his military service. He became obsessed with games. Most men mature after their military service. Why do you spend money so frivolously? I was playing a game when I lost an item. I became angry and made a payment without thinking. I felt bad, but I couldn’t stop myself. You are mean. It must feel dreary at home because of their strained relationship. What do you do? Looking at them makes me so frustrated and upset. When I talk to my son, he doesn’t listen. – I end up lashing out / – You nag at your husband. at my husband. “Why can’t you take care of your son?” How do you converse with your son? He talks to you. He texts me when he needs something. For example, he might say that he needs money. He might ask me to order him fried chicken. He might ask me to wash his sneakers. There is a pet turtle he cherishes. He has a pet turtle. He asks me to feed it. That’s when he texts. – He should feed it himself. / – It makes me wonder why he can’t think about his parents when he thinks about his turtle. (Son, please grow up.) Has your dad made you upset? Has he hurt your pride? I imagine you are like this due to an emotional scar. Whenever I say something to my dad, he answers in a pessimistic way. He says it won’t work. – Give us an example. / – When I was in the army, an ethics counselor came and gave a lecture. I got a certificate to become an ethics counselor. – He got a certificate. / – Afterwards, I told him that I want to become an ethics counselor. However, Dad disliked the idea and I stopped talking. What does your dad want you to be in the future? A public official or a technician. He wants you to have a stable job. Because I work as a taxi driver, I want my children to have a stable job. I want them to live comfortably. Parents always tell their children to become a public official or a technician. When I was in middle school, my mom told me to become Miss Korea. I am serious. Parents tend to speak of impossible dreams. That story never ceases to be funny. I understand. Are you studying anything these days? I am learning how to operate a forklift and excavator. – An excavator. / – An excavator. – Heavy equipment. / – He listens to his parents. Did you know that he is learning how to operate excavators? I don’t have a lot of faith in him. You should believe in him. – Why not? / – He is obsessed with games. He left school after a year and went to the army. He left school. Then he wanted to become a police officer. I paid for his classes, – but he quit after a month. / – I see. He quit after a month. Even though he is my son, I don’t have a lot of faith in him. (My goodness.) It seems like you lack tenacity to see things through. Why do you continue to quit? In middle school, I realized that studying isn’t my forte. I wanted to go to an occupational high school, but they insisted that I go to a regular high school and move on to a national university. I ended up going to a regular high school, but I placed last in my class all the time. I spent my time meaninglessly. In my second year of high school, I wanted to transfer to an occupational class, but they insisted I stay in the regular academic class. I had no choice but to graduate from there. I didn’t want to go to a university, but they insisted that I go and I majored in something that doesn’t suit me. – What was your major? / – He’s saying that you made him go to a regular high school and a university for the sake of the titles. You made him live in a way that makes him unhappy. Why did you do that? He placed last in his class. It’s meaningless. He isn’t interested in studying. – That’s right. / – I thought he should further his education. I think I made the wrong judgment. Is there something you would like to do? I am curious. I want to be an ethics counselor and make people laugh. Are you good with your words? No, I am not. Do you think you are funny? I am funny. Really? – He is funny. / – He is funny. What exactly does an ethics counselor do? – I want to know. / – I haven’t heard of it. – Does anyone know? / – I don’t know. – I don’t exactly know. / – What? (You have a certificate.) – Go on. / – You have a certificate. It’s not a certificate that is widely known. Ethics counselors get hired by public institutions to guide those who write malicious comments on the web. Internet ethics counselors. They educate people – on web etiquette. / – Internet ethics counselors. – Yes. / – I think… I understand why he doesn’t talk to his dad. Thank you. Do you talk… (He interprets the comment the way he wants.) – He didn’t say he supports you. / – No, I didn’t. Don’t thank him. He is funny. (Confused) Do you talk to your older brother? We don’t talk. I don’t have his number. (I don’t have his number.) – My goodness. / – My goodness. Since when did you not have his number? I think I called him a few times long time ago, but he never called me. He stopped talking to me at one point and stayed in his room. Do you know where he lives? No, I don’t. You don’t know that. Do you want to be closer to your brother? I am comfortable the way it is now. There is a chasm between the family members. (There is a chasm between the family members.) What happens on your birthday or Parents’ Day? I wouldn’t be here if he did something on those days. You know when your dad’s birthday is, right? February 25. – Correct. / – Correct. When is your mom’s birthday? May 20th. It’s May 20th by the solar calendar. Do you know your brother’s birthday? (Expectant) (Please get it right.) I have their birthdays memorized – to make accounts. / – He needs them for games. (For goodness’ sake.) That’s why he remembers them. (They aren’t smiling inside.) He needs them for games. Did you get anything for your last birthday? No, I didn’t. I turned 60 this year. I would have thrown a party had I worked at a company. However, both of my sons are disinterested. I swallowed my urge to celebrate. Did you see both of your sons at least? I told you earlier that it’s hard to see them. He turned 60. Even if you don’t have a present, you should’ve congratulated him. Why didn’t you do that? I wanted to. Is it hard to voice that thought? I didn’t voice that thought. You won’t make a good ethics counselor. He is the one who needs a counselor. How do you alleviate your loneliness and anger? Working as a taxi driver, I get stressed out a lot. – Of course you do. / – I am 60 years old. When I get drunk passengers, they hit my head for no reason. – My goodness. / – My goodness. I can’t believe some people do that. I have to remain polite since I am in the service industry. When I go home after a hard day, my son doesn’t greet me. “Welcome home. Thank you for your hard work.” That would chase away the exhaustion and give me energy. It’s nothing. That’s what I want to hear. When he endures rudeness of drunk passengers to make money, you waste it on games. Don’t you feel angry when you hear a story like this? I would have gone crazy if I were his son. I know that he works hard, but I find it hard to give him words of encouragement. You should try. He will be happy if you eat with him. He hasn’t eaten with his son in ten years. It’s outrageous. What kind of a son doesn’t greet his dad? To be honest, I want to live alone. – Gosh. / – I knew he would say that. – Come on. / – He is a bad son. I still don’t understand. I’m sure there must be a bigger reason. Is there a reason you haven’t shared? When I was young, my parents fought often. I would come home from school to see broken pots. No one answered me when I asked what had happened. I always stayed in my room alone. I think I was affected by it. It could be the reason. Was he telling the truth? My wife and I fought often due to our different personalities. For how long did you date before your got married? We met three times. They met three times. Was it an arranged match? Yes, I married him because he seemed diligent. – They met three times. / – The married life didn’t make me happy. – Why not? / – What was hard about it? He spoke in a brusque manner as if he was scolding me. He simply threw out words. I would get annoyed and quarrel with him. I received treatments for depression. That’s how hard it has been. Those who are watching the show must remember this. It’s detrimental for a child to see his or her parents fight. – It’s detrimental. / – It’s the worst that can happen. The biggest issue is the lack of communication. Children learned from their parents’ ways. That’s why they stopped talking. Since you want to be an ethics counselor, you could change the atmosphere. I think that would be nice. Should I do it now? – What? / – Can you do it? – What? / – Can you do it? I am good at being funny. (Flustered) Show us. (He is ridiculous.) We don’t want to see you being funny. We want to see you make your dad happy. – I see. / – Okay? How would you make people laugh when you haven’t made your parents laugh once? Why don’t you tell your son what’s on your mind? Tell him how you want things to be. Jaedong, my younger son. The experiences you had in your childhood left a scar. Even though I don’t remember very well, I hope you would let go of those painful memories. I did you wrong. Forgive me. I love you. My goodness. (His apology makes the heart ache.) My goodness, this is upsetting. You are shedding tears. It’s… It’s frustrating, right? It’s upsetting to think about how frustrated he must have been for the past ten years. – It made me sad. / – Of course it did. Say what you want to say to your dad. Dad. (He carefully reveals what’s on his mind.) To be honest, I didn’t know it was such a big worry for you. I know that I am immature. Even though I am trying, it’s hard. I will try harder and welcome you home from now on. – I won’t be an embarrassment. / – Meals. If you don’t chew loudly, I will eat with you. – For goodness’ sake. / – Come here. Come here. Give your dad a hug. This is a good place to start. Come on out. Tell him that you love him. Give him a hug. (This will be a new beginning for them.) Let me give you a hug. (They will make each other proud.) You should hug him back. Give him a piggyback ride. – You should have done that. / – Hug him back. What are you doing? (That’s incredible.) What are you doing? (Dad and son make a cross.) (Is this how characters hug in games?) Were you trying to throw your dad? He is ridiculous. (He made people laugh in a unique way.) He used a wrestling technique. Let’s have a vote. I think it’s a worry. When your dad apologized after beating you, you must have been flustered. However, your dad felt that way for the past ten years. He must have struggled a lot in the past ten years. I also think it’s a worry. So that he doesn’t regret it later, he should treat his parents more nicely. I also think it’s a worry. This is an important step in their lives. I hope they will build a good relationship from now on. If you think it’s a worry, please press the button. (What does the audience think?) – In five, four, / – In five, four, – three, two, one. / – three, two, one. – Stop. / – Time’s up. Ma’am, if you have words for your older son… – Please say them now. / – I am sure you do. Jaeseok, the struggles in your childhood must have led to pent-up frustration. I want to take this opportunity… (The thought of her older son makes her tear up.) to ask for your understanding. Also, it would be nice if you can send us a text. (When did it go wrong?) All right. (We hope they heal as a family.) My goodness. I wonder how many votes this worry received. Show us the result. The first worry received 76 votes. The number is over 100. “The Silent Son”. 171 votes. (The worried received 171 votes.) Hello! This is Hello News. (Parents’ Day Special, Hello News) I am sure most of you know what this special entails. We will show positive changes in our past guests. What news do we have today? Let’s see a video clip of the past episode. (“Dear Mom”) (A daughter reports her mom.) Girl, girl, girl, girl, girl, girl, son. I am the sixth child in the family. (I remember this worry.) (Does her mom work 15 hours a day?) My mom sells fruits on the street. (She has sold fruits for 26 years.) (She has worked without a break for 26 years.) – She never rests. / – Her entire body aches. (She had responsibilities as the eldest daughter.) (The hardships of life weighed down on her.) Despite my old age and sick body, I am greedy. – “I can make so much in a day.” / – When I don’t work, I feel like I will starve to death. – I know how she feels. / – That’s why she can’t rest. (Yeongja is reminded of her mom.) (Her throat closes up right away.) Dad suddenly passed away eight years ago. (Her dad suddenly passed away eight years ago.) I am worried that you will pass away like him. (I am scared.) (Tearing up) I want you to enjoy your life. (A parent’s sacrifice made everyone tear up.) (Yeongja is crying again.) I want you to make good memories. (She wants to see her mom for many years to come.) Mom, don’t get sick and be happy. Okay, I will stay healthy. – It’s perfect news for Parents’ Day. / – Right. Do you want to know how she has changed? – Yes. / – All right. She used to sell fruits without taking a day off. – Did she really change? / – Show us. (7 a.m., Gwanak-gu, Seoul) Gwanak-gu. (A car moves through the morning air.) Is she going to work? No, she sells fruits at a different location. I sat for too long. Hello. (Yoon Hwaja, it’s good to see you again.) Her style remains unchanged. – I came from Boryeong. / – She came from Boryeong. – Boryeong. / – She hasn’t changed at all. Where is she going? (It’s her eldest daughter’s house.) It’s her eldest daughter’s house. – She got into another accident / – Really? because she couldn’t take a break even after the show. We are taking this time as an opportunity to go on – a family trip together. / – That’s a good idea. – She needs a break. / – Where are you going? (Where are you going?) – Taiwan. / – They are traveling abroad. – Taiwan. / – They are traveling abroad. – It’s a four-day trip. / – They are traveling abroad. My goodness, this is unbelievable. My children asked me to go on a trip. What about her business? They said, “Why don’t we go abroad?” I said, “Sure.” My first, third, fourth sisters, me, and mom are going. It’s a big family. Hello. – I prepared a gift for you. / – The daughters – are cute. / – It must have been hard to raise them all. They understand their mom. (Fruits?) She sells fruits. Why did she buy her mom fruits? (The fourth daughter is funny.) Come here. Let me give you a hug. (Her granddaughter appears.) – Everyone has gathered. / – You are so cute. (She looks talented.) Do a performance of “Pick Me”. No. You are looking at the camera. No. “No.” You look so cool. – Let’s go. / – Let’s go. Are they packing? (A special trip for their mom who worked 26 years.) She’s so cute. (Enjoy your life now.) She looks so happy. (Incheon Airport) She’s going to the airport. (Incheon International Airport) (Excited, she walks ahead of everyone.) It looks like she’s gotten healthier. – I know. / – Her back is straightened. I feel good, of course. I’m the happiest woman in the world. Right. I hope you will always remain healthy and continue to host the show. – We hope you’re healthy too! / – Stay healthy! Being on Hello Counselor with my mom gave me an opportunity to get rid of unresolved feelings and resentments towards her. Have fun. – Bye. / – I feel proud. – It’s Taiwan. / – It’s Taiwan. Look at her outfit. (She looks very natural in this outfit.) She looks like a native. That’s a Chinese wish lantern. She became a native. I’m so happy for her. -There’s one more. / – One more? I’ve been with my dance partner for eight years. Even when I’m in the emergency room… “Don’t be a crybaby. We have to go practice.” “Get up. Get up now.” This spiteful partner is my mom. The mother and the son. Even when I’m getting an IV fluid My mom is addicted to contests. We participated in 30 contests in 1 year. – That’s how intense it is. / – That’s crazy. I became his partner because he doesn’t have one. I did it even if I didn’t feel so well. But now he says I’m his worry. I can’t believe it. Why is this a worry? It would be the best if his dad learns dancing – and they dance together. / – Right. When he joined the army, I dropped everything and danced with her from 10 p.m. to 2 a.m. for two months. But she said, “You can’t even do this? Are you stupid?” She kept yelling at me. Your wife told you that you were stupid. I realized this is why people get divorced. (Oh, goodness.) (They won.) “Let’s Split Up” won. “Let’s Split Up” won twice. “Let’s Split Up” won three times. “Let’s Split Up” won four times. (They won five times.) They won five times with this story. Let’s see how they changed. (Dong-gu, Ulsan) We will start the dance sports championship. (Is it a dance sports championship?) It’s another contest. The mother was addicted to dance contests. Have they become judges now? (The dance sports addict mom is retiring!) – She’s retiring. / – She’s retiring. Is she retiring? – The son became more handsome. / – She’s retiring. (Her son will benefit from her retirement.) He’s really happy. – He’s really happy. / – Why is he so happy? – It’s their last performance. / – They’re so good. It’s her retirement performance. (Now the son will carry on her passion.) – She’s still / – She’s amazing. – amazing. / – She is. She’s so passionate. (Ma’am!) (We will always cheer for your passion.) – This is… / – This is her last performance. (Congratulations on your retirement.) It was her last dance with her son. (We can’t forget this man.) – The dad. / – The dad. He always followed them and acted as their manager. (Will he be retiring from the manager job too?) Right. I should retire too. He will be retiring from the manager job. (We will cheer for the second half of her life!) I love you! I love you, Hello Counselor. Thank you. (We have to talk to this unique family.) They are on the phone right now. Let’s talk to them. Hello? – Hello. / – Hello. Congratulations on your retirement. – Thank you. / – Isn’t it a blessing for your son? Does he have a new partner yet? – No. / – No, not yet. I’m studying right now. Sir, you should move back. Your head looks huge. (Please move back.) – Goodness. / – Do you go on a date often now? It feels like we’re newlyweds again. (They are enjoying their time alone.) We spent good times with our son in the first half. We will spend time on our own in the second half. You’re great. We hope you will become happier every day. – Thank you. / – Thank you. Bye. Next story is called “Nothing’s Wrong with My Face”. Hello. I am a high school senior from Chuncheon. People always ask me this question. “Where are you from?” Then I say, “I’m Korean.” “What? He speaks good Korean.” “I said, I’m Korean.” I am an authentic Korean who has never left Korea once. Why do people assume that I’m a foreigner? One time, I was working at a dakgalbi restaurant. “Are you a local?” “We use only local chicken.” “I mean you.” “Are you a local?” – Goodness. / – That’s bad. Isn’t it unbelievable? A drunk man on a street said this to me. “What are you looking at?” “You foreigner-looking boy.” “Move, foreigner.” Why should I be discriminated like this? And is it okay to treat foreigners like that? – Right. / – I can’t live like this. I don’t want to be treated like this anymore. Please help me. (He asked for help.) Has Hani been mistaken as a foreigner? She has features that are unlike a Korean. Her eyes look like the pretty Korean eyes. – When you look only her eyes. / – Right. But she’s got the mouth of an Arab. – Her mouth. / – Yes. – She does look like an Arab. / – Yes, a little bit. You look a little like… (Let’s see.) You look a little like a carp. (Like a carp) Hey. We once got a story like this on our radio show. It happened at a company with several foreign workers. This person couldn’t speak another language, so he just communicated to the foreigner like this. And the foreigner did the same. It went on for a year. But it turned out both of them were Koreans. (They mistook each other for a foreigner.) They were both Koreans. They thought of each other as a foreigner. One day, another staff said, “Let’s eat, Mr. Kim!” And they went, “Are you Korean?” (They found out the truth after one year.) It took them one year. You are sensitive when you’re a senior. He’s very stressed because he’s mistaken as a foreigner. Please come on out. (Who is the high schooler mistaken as a foreigner?) (Goodness) (Everyone’s eyes are on him.) (Jung Younghoon) (Is he really a Korean?) Please introduce yourself with confidence. He’s handsome. Hello. I was born in Wonju, Gangwon Province. (They are surprised.) – He’s handsome. / – I study in Chuncheon. I am a 19-year-old native Korean Jung Younghoon. You are a native Korean. You’re great. Where do people think you are from? They mistake me for a Mexican. A South American. Also, some see me as a Southeast Asian or a Malay. – A Malay. / – A Malay. Your eyes are so big. – Your eyes are the similar sizes. / – Right. – I get why people are mistaken. / – Look at Hani. (He doesn’t look at Hani.) – He doesn’t like me. / – Are you embarrassed? – Do you not like EXID? / – No. – I like them. I know their songs. / – You do. – Really? / – Sing “Up and Down”. (He dances.) Since when did people start mistaking you? Since I was in kindergarten. – Since kindergarten. / – Since kindergarten. When I went to my friend’s, my friend’s mom said, “My son is so global.” (His friend’s mom mistook him for a foreigner.) Does your family know about this worry? – I can’t tell them. / – Why not? I was raised by my grandparents, and we are not well off. My father comes home late. You have no one to talk to about this. Is that why you came here? Yes. I wanted to explain myself too. – Good job. / – Good job. Please give him a round of applause. Get everything off your chest. I was working at a dakgalbi restaurant. One old lady asked me. “Are you a local?” – She’s strange. / – I thought she meant the chicken. So I told her it was a local chicken. You told her it was a local chicken. I told her it was a local chicken. She said, “No, I mean you. Are you a local?” I went to interview for a part-time job with my friend. The owner saw me and said, “Customers are not going to like how you look.” (Customers are not going to like how you look.) What is this? (I feel sad whenever that happens.) You must be really frustrated. He came with his friend. Hello. – Hello. / – Welcome. Do you understand his worries? Yes. I met him for the first time when we were – in elementary school. / – You’re his old friend. When the principal gives a talk, we had to stand in a line in the school yard. – He advises students. / – Right. When I was lining up to hear it, I saw him standing next to me. When I saw him first, I thought he was one of those children from multicultural families. You didn’t have a doubt. So I asked him where he was from. And we got into a fight. – That’s how you became close? – Yes. You would’ve been stunned to hear him curse. (He was stunned to hear him curse.) When we entered middle school, since he looks like a foreigner, there were some students who hated him for no reason. What’s wrong with them, really? He had his favorite shoes in his locker. While he was away, they cut his shoes with knives. How mean. Worse than that, they bumped into him on the street. And they kept picking a fight with him for no reason. We saw them bothering him, so we tried to fight them. However, he told us to let it slide. – He didn’t want to fight. / – He wanted to let it go? – Why? / – Why did you suppress your anger? I was afraid of my friends hating on my personality on top of my looks. (He was afraid his personality would also be hated.) He must be so frustrated because because it’s unnecessary for him to suppress his anger. He makes himself smaller. What a sad story. Is there any other story that’s really upsetting? He walks home alone late at night after his part-time job. Just because he saw the drunk man on the street, he said, “How dare a foreigner stands in his way?” He yelled at him, so he ran away in fear. – When sober, they can say nothing. / – Exactly. When someone picks a fight for no reason, why don’t you pretend to be a foreigner and say like this to sound like a swear word? They would think you’re cursing. My grandparents told me to do so. They told me to mix a bit of swear words in between. (What?) – How adorable. / – All adults think alike. – His grandparents… / – Dongyeop thinks like them. – Do you have a girlfriend? / – I’m also curious. I don’t have one now, but I’ve had about ten girlfriends so far. How old are you? Aren’t you a senior in high school? – He’s had ten girlfriends. / – He went through a lot, but he doesn’t seem gloomy. Did it work out? But most relationships end in about 30 days. – They end soon. / – Why? What’s the reason? It’s because of my looks. – At first, they’re curious. / – They go out with you. Yes. But they eventually get embarrassed to go somewhere with me later on. – Did they tell you? / – Other than disadvantages, are there any advantages? – Due to your looks. / – Are there good things? There’s almost none, but most of my friends’ parents like me. Why? Is it because you’re handsome? They say that I look like Jang Donggun. That’s right. – Who? / – He looks like Jang Donggun. (He does look like Jang Donggun.) Since you can’t change your face, you need to overcome it yourself. There must be a reason why you’re here today. I’ve seen people at my school only. However, I started working. – You’re working. / – You’re working. – Where? / – At an industrial corporation. I’m afraid that people will have prejudice against – my looks again. / – I see. – For them… / – You need to explain every time. It must feel like you’re starting over and over. I wish people will not judge – others by their looks. / – I totally agree. I wish people won’t look down on foreigners. Foreigners themselves. It all starts from such behavior. The way he thinks is so wonderful. He’s working after graduating from high school. My family isn’t well off. – His grandparents raised him. / – Gosh, you brat… (She’s reminded of someone.) (He can’t say anything.) You brat… There are a lot of multicultural families in Korea. Just being mistaken as a foreigner feels this bad. How much more would actual foreigners – suffer and be mistreated. / – Exactly. Most importantly, you must be positive. You need to promote yourself with confidence. – Share your strengths with others. / – That’s right. I adjust quickly to work. – You adjust quickly. / – That’s good. It’s because I’ve been working since I was young. He can’t lie. – He’s a really nice guy. / – I think so. Yeongja is much prettier in person than seen on television, isn’t she? Yes, I’ve seen her often on television. You’ll be fine with people if you can lie that much. (He’s relieved.) Can you say a few words to support your friend? Don’t be so harsh to strangers at first. What I asked you when we first met at the gym was because I was curious. I wasn’t trying to pick a fight. – Good point. / – Please don’t get others wrong. – That’s right. / – Like the way you do to us, – be friendly to others. / – He’d be defensive. It’d be nice if you could do that. Try to turn it into your strength. For instance, when I graduated from elementary, middle, and high school, my parents didn’t come. My father was a teacher at another school, so he always had to be at that school’s graduation. My mother was sick, so she couldn’t come. After the graduation ceremony, I always followed my friends’ parents and ate Chinese food or something. I was really sad about it when I was young. However, that made me become very keen towards others. I’m quick, and I cater to others very well. I learned how to be liked by adults since I was young. When others give you a strange look, come up with a way to make them be on your side. – “I need to make them look at me favorably.” / – Yes. Think of it as a game and make them be on your side. I’ll try to become positive so my friends will approach me first. That’s right. Give him a round of applause. (Cheer up!) I don’t think it’s a worry. – You don’t think it’s a worry. / – Today would be an opportunity for him to build confidence. I think he’s really lucky to have a friend like him. I think it’s a worry. Those who are watching the show now or at least the ones who are here today should put effort all together so there would no longer be such a worry again. Go! (He’s shy.) – You should do the cheer together. / – Let’s go! Go! I don’t think it’s a worry. I think you must love yourself to be beloved by others. Share your charms with others soon. – You’re handsome. / – That’s right. You’re handsome. If you empathize with his worry now, press the button. (What does the audience think?) Go, Younghoon! – In five, four, / – In five, four, – three, two, one. / – three, two, one. – Time’s up. / – Stop. Say a few words to your grandparents who raised you. Grandpa and Grandma. Thank you for raising me as a healthy guy. I’ll get a job soon and treat you to a delicious meal. He’s very mature. Let’s see how many votes his story earned. Show us the result. The last digit is four. – Did it get over 100 votes? / – 84 votes. – It got over 100 votes. / – My goodness. – I think it got 104 votes. / – How many votes? – 124 votes. / – It got 124 votes. You’ll turn 20 years old soon. Thank you. Be confident. “The Silent Son” is the winner this week. Winner will receive a 1,000-dollar gift certificate. Until the day we are all worry-free, Hello Counselor will continue to counsel you. – Thank you! / – Thank you! (“Sing with the Swing” by Peter Han)

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