When people tell me to, suck it up. It’s all in your head. You’re gonna be fine. Chin up. You’ll get through it. It almost makes it worse. What I need is people to just put their hand on my shoulder. Be there for me. Tell me they’re there for me and actually be there. Don’t just say it, but do it. I think it can be really hard to recognize signs with anybody with depression, because a lot of people if they’re suffering from it have learned how to hide it. But the biggest thing is if they start withdrawing. If they’re not answering their phone, responding to text messages. You see that they used to be very active in social media and they start really not being active. Or posting things that are very down and very, very black, I call it. Where it just seems like there’s something really wrong. Or I think another big thing, if you live with someone with depression, if they just don’t seem to be finding interest in anything anymore. They used to go out to the lake and go swimming every single day. And now they don’t even want to go do that. It’s a huge sign that there’s something going on and that’s when someone needs to reach out and say, “Are you okay? I’m here for you. How can I help?” If someone says that they’re fine, that’s when you say, “If you ever feel that you aren’t fine, you need to let me know. I’m here. I will go with you to an appointment if you need to go in and be seen. I’m here to talk, whatever it might be.” If you feel like someone is in a really bad place and they aren’t willing to get that help, there are so many different places that you can contact, like the Becker County Crisis team. And they will be there in a heartbeat. They will come to you. You can text them. You can call them. That’s what needs to happen. Because sometimes we’re not willing to admit, and there’s been many times that I have not been willing to admit that I am in a bad bad place. But my family sees it and that’s when they reach out. And I think especially with people who are new to dealing with depression they don’t really know how to reach out. But I think people like myself who have struggled for so many years, we’ve learned that it’s okay to reach out and it’s okay to say that we’re not okay.