SURVIVING CHRISTMAS WHEN YOU HAVE ANXIETY
OR DEPRESSION Welcome back YouTubers to my channel of an
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is not far and fast approaching and I thought to bring out as many kinda Christmasy stuff
as well as some other stuff that I really want to hopefully to put on forward right
now before anything else happens. So, this one is a part 2 uptake about surviving Christmas
for your mental health and this one is all about when you have anxiety or depression,
how to survive you know Christmas or what have you. The Christmas season is often heralded as
the ‘most magical time of the year’. There are presents to be given and received,
work functions to be attended and a gourmet feast to be consumed on the day, which for
some, is the highlight of the year. For many others, however, Christmas is a time
which is approached with dread and horror along with other mixed feelings. It is a time
filled with tensions, of unmet expectations and time spent with people we would rather
not be with. And don’t foirever think that you know that someone with depression or anxiety
or other form of mental health problems is avoiding you, just be sure to understand to
what they’re going through and maybe make life easier for them somehow but just by being
their listening ear or what have you. Maybe gently guiding them to a place where they
can have a place for you know relax and talking to someone that they can trust. The day can feel lonely. This may be particularly
so if we are battling with anxiety or depression. When our days are spent managing these two
complex diagnosis, any day can feel like an uphill battle.
Yet, Christmas Day somehow has the ability to hit harder than most and for many of the
people I see in therapy, it is a day which requires some forethought and careful navigation
to get through this day unscathed, worned out, tired and the like to what you know will
bring out those vibes for us. If anxiety or depression are a current part
of our daily landscape or daily routine or what have you of the aftermath, how do we
do this? You know how do we cope? I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately and have Here are the words of wisdom I both offer,
and have received , from the many patients I am journeying with at the moment from near
and far that may have you know experience some of this and hopefully in saying this
that you can bear in mind in this.. 1) Place self care on your to do list. We
tend to forget ourselves as we are solely focusing on others around us , giving our
time of day. There are so many tasks associated with Christmas, each of which can be very
demanding and draining of our emotional and physical energy stores.
Self care, whatever that means to you, needs to be on your to do list. 2) Limit activities or functions that drain
you. Anxiety and depression can be very exhausting
and sometimes the thought of attending a long night of socialising can be overwhelming when
we are struggling to get out of bed every day.
Decide in advance what you feel capable of managing and give yourself permission to say
no to those activities that fill you with dread.
Perhaps you will feel less overwhelmed if you decide to go to an outing for 45 minutes
rather than thinking you need to go for the whole night.
Let people know in advance that you can’t stay as you have another commitment. You do
have another commitment – with yourself. 3) Have an ‘evacuation plan’ organised in
advance. I’m not talking about escaping floods or fire,
but rather if on Christmas day it all feels like too much, plan in advance how you will
manage your escape and follow through with that if it all feels too much.
Knowing in advance that leaving early is an option can sometimes help the day seem manageable. 4) Be prepared for difficult conversations
and interactions. Lets face it, on Christmas Day we often find ourselves having to spend
time with people we rarely see or those we wish we didn’t.
It’s very important to be self protective and in advance, practice ways that you can
manage those interactions and exit conversations gracefully. 5) Create your own rituals for Christmas day.
If your experience of Christmas day has been one of stress and tension in childhood, adulthood
offers a chance to create your own rituals. If you were forced to endure a ten hour feast
with dysfunctional relatives in childhood, Christmas as an adult offers you the chance
to recreate the day in a way that is not only less stressful but also more meaningful to
you. It might be that catching up for a one hour
coffee with a few treasured relatives or friends is all that you can manage this year….and
thats ok. 6) Don’t forget to practice your healthy coping
behaviours. A big part of managing depression is a commitment
to do simple tasks of daily living. Get out of bed at the same time, have a shower
straight away, put on some nice clothes, eat breakfast, sit in the sunshine, go for a walk,
watch something you enjoy on Tv, call a friend, read a book, get to sleep at a reasonable
time. Such simple things really do help with depression.
It can be tempting to spend Christmas Day in bed, feeling overwhelmed, but this may
be the very worst thing you can do. Often the best, and most simple antidote to
a crash in mood is to get moving and do something. Anything. It doesn’t matter what.
Engaging in purposeful activity can push a depressed or anxious mood back ever so slightly
to make it more manageable. 7) Let the emotions pass. Emotions often come
in waves. Anxiety starts to build, or a wave of sadness hits… and these feelings can
feel both completely overwhelming and also endless.
Yet, often if we have the willingness to just let them be there we find that within moments
their intensity reduces even slightly. Imagine being on the ocean and riding out the roll
of the waves on a surfboard. It is the same with emotions. The tension
builds but eventually we get to the other side. 8) Do things to improve the moment. As you
wait for these emotion waves to pass, commit to doing something that makes the moment better.
Have a shower, watch something nice on Tv, make a cake, have a cup of soothing tea.
Research tells us that these simple actions can be helpful.. 9) Be aware of your thinking – if negative
self talk is familiar, it may be even more so during this time when our minds can conjure
up a thousand thoughts which make us either feel anxious, overwhelmed or deeply sad.
The thought ‘I can’t cope with all of this’ will endeavour to make you feel just that.
The thought ‘It’s just one day. I can do some nice things for myself and I
can cope better that I think I can’ may, in turn, make you feel just that. 10) Remember, this day shall pass. It is one
day. Plan something on the day to look forward to beyond all of the things that create tension
and stress. A nice glass of wine at the end of the day.
Permission to have a nap in the afternoon or to spend the night reading a good book. Whatever it takes to make this day less onerous
in your mind, choose that path. Well, this quickly ends another mental health
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